Thought of the week

The media feeds us a false perception of what we should look like, and if we don’t start becoming strong enough to ignore the pressure then we will destroy ourselves with never feeling good enough. 

The images that you see on social media, on TV, or in the magazine, are not real. 

The images that make you feel shit about yourself and want to change how you look are not real.

We’re all partly to blame. We get sucked into the egotistical world of wanting to look good enough. We want to be approved by others because we can’t approve of ourselves. So we post images that don’t represent who we truly are and we make our insecurities worse by falling into the medias shitty, false, lying, manipulative hands. Fuck filters. Fuck airbrushing. 

And do you know what else isn’t real? that feeling you get when you walk past somebody and you wished you looked like them. That’s a person who feels the same as you. A person who is trying to change themselves because they don’t feel good enough. We’re so quick to hate ourselves and we’re all giving ourselves a hard time so we never have the moment to feel genuinely beautiful.

But IT’S ALL LIES. Our insecurities are telling us lies. 

The sooner we start to realise that we are fucking beautiful and enough exactly as we are, the better.

We can put our heads up and own every bit of skin that we’re in without feeling ashamed. We don’t need to change a thing about ourselves. When are we going to start realising that??

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Thought of the week

Nothing in life is guaranteed and none of us know what tomorrow might bring, so make the most of every ‘today’.

Smile more and spend time with the people that treat you right.

Love with every single part of your soul with no regrets or doubts.

Stop being so afraid of what could go wrong and dive into every adventure with your eyes wide shut. 

Be brave, be kind and most importantly,

Be happy. 

Thought of the week

“When you’re constantly putting other people first, you begin to forget about your own happiness. You forget how it feels to walk outside and feel the fresh air past brush your face. You forget to speak about how you feel because you’re so used to everybody else’s shit and having to be the shoulder to cry on. You listen to what people have to say and you nod politely when deep down you’re drained of it all. Deep down, you want to have a break. And although it feels good to help people now and again, your energy is slowly sucked away from you until you’ve left with nothing.

Don’t be other people’s emotional garbage can.

Notice the difference between people who use you by dumping their emotions on you and the people who care about how you feel too.”

Is love island destroying teens mental health?

So it’s that time of year again! One of the biggest shows on ITV2 is midway through its fourth season, breaking records and reeling in over 3.4 million views for the launch.

There is no denying that most of us can’t help but love the endless amounts of drama, the lingering sound of somebody shouting “I’VE GOT A TEXT” and watching every element of a romantic relationship grow, but in the back of our heads, we know that this is a reality TV show. We know to take some things with a pinch of salt. Well, we should do anyway.

What needs to be considered though, is if teenagers really view this the same. At such a vital point in their life, do they understand that not all young adults have to behave or look like the people on the show? Does the show teach the correct morals and values to have in a happy, secure relationship? Does this actually change teenagers perception on love? Basically, is love island creating a false sense of reality and an aspiration for teenagers that is just impossible for them to ever reach? Is the generation of social media and reality stars causing deeper mental health issues for the youth of today? My answer is yes. Don’t get me wrong, I think that love island is a great dramatised television programme. But the way in which it’s portrayed to be a reality show (despite the whole thing being constructed) will eventually lead to the downfall in teens mental health and wellbeing. We need to make the changes and discuss these things, before it’s too late.

BODY IMAGE

A worrying aspect of this show is that only one type of body image is shown.

Firstly, let’s discuss the women. Many of the girls who are on this show have had cosmetic surgery and procedures to make them look a particular way. Instead of promoting natural looks and embracing who we are, this show promotes one type of body with no imperfections which is again unrealistic for a lot of teenagers out there. The pressure that young girls could potentially put on themselves to look like these women has to be addressed. These women have flawless skin and no cellulite/scars or any imperfections when in a bikini. All of the things that are a part of being a natural woman seem to disappear on this show. Whether this is done by video editing, or only choosing to cast women who look airbrushed, it’s not realistic and can potentially lead to body dysmorphia and other anxieties and insecurities. When a girl is going through puberty, their body is going to change. But younger girls who watch this show may not understand this and it could lead to younger depression and anxiety as none of this is discussed or shown. Most women have imperfections, so why are women like this not cast on the show?

Side note: I am fully aware that the beauty/TV/advertising industry has to promote a certain kind of look. And I know that it has been around for years. But I am commenting on the way in which it’s changing. It almost seems more sinister. More subtle and pressurised for younger people.

Now, the men. Again, they all seem to look very similar. They walk around all day with their tops off and many of them have tattoos and a certain type of frame. A lot of them have also had procedures to their teeth, and who knows what else? Men have imperfections and scars, just the same way that women do. But this isn’t shown. So a young boy watching this programme could end up obsessing over looking a particular way that might not ever be achievable for them. This leads on nicely to:

SOCIAL BEHAVIOUR

Is it normal to walk around all day in a bikini or swimming shorts? No. But does this potentially make young girls and boys feel like they have to show a lot of their body or dress in a particular way to get attention in day to day life? Absolutely.  Many of these men walk into the villa and discuss how beautiful the women are. So a young girl watching this, could potentially think that you have to show everything and look that way to get approval from men. Also, the way that the men and women speak to each other and argue seems to play a big role in this series. Younger people will strive to act like these cast members. Is this really the way that we want our children to behave? Don’t get me wrong, some of the cast members are good role models. But the show as a whole, doesn’t do enough to show genuine behaviour. It’s distorted and can be brainwashing to the younger generation who believe that this is real. They could potentially believe that this is the way that you have to be when you grow up. When these cast members meet each other, they share a bed straight away as if it’s normal. When it isn’t. This leads on to:

RELATIONSHIPS

How are young boys and girls going to view love and relationships with influences such as this show? A young girl could watch this show and think that it’s okay to share a bed with a stranger. To think that it’s the norm. A young boy can also watch this and think the same. Could both boys and girls lose their confidence and think that they aren’t worthy of a relationship like the ones they see on the television? I know that this can all sound a bit far fetched and dramatic, but when you look at the effects that it can have on younger people, it makes you wonder about the world that they are growing up in.

Is depression and anxiety going to increase in younger people as they feel like they can never achieve a relationship or lifestyle they have almost been forced to believe is true? Will it all take its toll in the end because there isn’t enough education about ‘reality’ tv and how it doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s real life? I think that without these kind of discussions with younger people, it will get worse. Growing from a child to a teenager is one of the most important stages of life as it forms you into the person that you are. It needs to be spoken about more.

Are we raising a generation mentally set up to fail?

 

 

 

 

Ultimate girls night in films from the 00’s

Feeling a bit down? Grab some popcorn, your duvet, a cosy pair of pj’s and few girl friends (or just yourself) and indulge in some of these nostalgic feel good chick flicks. The perfect cheer up remedy. Here are my top 20 picks.

1. Mean girls- Because what girl from our generation doesn’t know all of the quotes from this film? And let’s be honest, we’ve all watched it at least 20 times. So fetch.

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2.  John Tucker Must Die– Because girl power and friendship matters. Men need to be shown who’s boss. And because “don’t get mad, get even.”

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3. A Cinderella Story- Because Hillary Duff and Chad Michael Murray are in it. If you know, you know. LITERALLY GOALS. Hillary Duff was life. I still don’t get how Austin Ames didn’t figure out it was her under that mask though..

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4. Matilda- It’s just one of them films that never gets old. Is it weird that Miss Trunchball still scares me now when I watch it? And I kind of look like her when i’ve been sweating out at the gym…

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5. The Notebook- My heart literally hurts every time I watch it. In a good way though. It’s so romantic and we all want that type of relationship don’t we girls? Ryan Gosling, please marry me.

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6. Bring it On (all or nothing)-  The cheer songs are still sassy AF and make you wanna have a dance off. Plus, the story of true friendship is heartwarming. I do still wish I looked like Hayden Panettiere in the cheerleaders outfit though. Boo hoo. 

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7. Dream girls- Ultimate sing along. Who hasn’t belted out the ballads from this film at least once?! Plus Beyoncé and Jenifer Hudson are literally diva goals. **AND I AM TELLING YOUUU, I’M NOT GOIIINGGG**

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8. She’s the Man- I was introduced to this film at university and I’ve never looked back. Heart warming and funny. Amanda Seyfried is the one!

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9. Legally Blonde- We all routed for Elle woods. You go girl. This gave all of us hope to chase our dreams.

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10. The Princess Diaries- Another feel good classic. Because princesses can just be normal girls.

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11. High School Musical- Troy Bolton was every young girls fantasy. Sharpay was a bitch but we still loved her by the end of every film. Chad’s hair was unreal. Gabriella was goals. I don’t know about you, but I think I used to make my mum’s ears burn with how many times I replayed the songs. This film is bound to cheer you up.  It doesn’t matter what your age is. Once a wildcat, always a wildcat. 

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12. Grease- Because we all need a bit of that sassy Sandy at the end of the movie to motivate us now and again. But on a serious note, I don’t think I could pull off her hair like she did if I’m honest.

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13. Cheaper By The Dozen- Literally family goals back in the day. I always used to say how I wanted to have 12 kids. Thinking about it now, imagine the food shopping bill each week. Not to mention the pain of it. Like, literal downstairs pain.

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14. Angus, Thongs and Perfect Snogging- We could all relate to Georgia’s life. Awkward and embarrassingly funny. Also, I have to say that the soundtrack for this film is powerful! So good.

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15. Wild Child- The quotes in this film are probably up there with Mean Girls. Another film that you can watch a million times and not get bored of. Welcome to Malibu Biatch. 

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16. Crossroads- Young Britney was everything. I used to watch this when I was about 12, crying to her singing “I’m not a girl, not yet a woman.” Bless.

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17. Hairspray- Because Zac Efron, big hair and lots of songs. Do I need to say anything else?

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18. Freaky Friday- Another film that never gets old. Reminds me of when Lindsay Lohan was in like, every teen film ever.

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19. The Last Song- COUPLE GOALS. It’s nice to go back to the Hannah Montana/Miley stage where she falls in love and everything’s cute. I want that Miley back. Booooo.

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20. Harry Potter- Okay, so it might not the girliest of films but how can you not like a binge watch of Harry Potter?! Brings Christmas vibes.

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