See you soon!

Hello you gorgeous people.

Firstly, I just want to say that if you’ve followed me and my content, thank you so much. I know the numbers aren’t huge, but every message of support that I have ever received, every view and every person that I’ve helped has been the only thing that has kept me going when I have felt hopeless.

Because of this blog, I’ve had some really intimate and special conversations where thoughts and feelings have been shared with people that I probably would never have spoken to before. And I never forget those things. I remember every single person that has been in contact, and I am always wishing you the best.

Also, to those of you who have silently viewed my videos and read my writing, you matter too. Thank you for being consistent and supporting from afar.

And let’s be honest, the only reason I got into a relationship was because I received a message about this blog. And then it ended and shattered me into a million pieces. It’s all so beautifully bitter sweet.

So basically.. for a long time, my content has been coming from a dark and lonely place and I think my relationship breakdown has just pushed me over the edge. I’ve been clinging onto the blog to help pull me through, but it’s not working anymore. I want to keep it real and I want to be true to myself and to you all. Never alone blog is my passion, my creative outlet and my best friend. And I don’t want to say goodbye to it. However, I need to take some time out for a while so I can come back with stronger content that can help you fully.

I don’t know how long the break is going to be, or if i’m going to completely revamp the blog when I get back. But it’s time to fix myself once and for all. Maybe, i’ll get round to finishing the book that i’ve been meaning to write in the mean time! But please keep following the page though, because I promise you that I’ll be back at some point.

I would love to leave you with a never alone sweatshirt. I may also try to sell some other never alone designs on my Facebook page. I just won’t be posting content for a while. This is the sweatshirt and i’m selling for £20. if you want one, just message me.

So yeah.

I will be stronger. I will be better for you and I will always be here to remind you that you are never alone.

But for now, self care is needed.

See you soon!


Advertisements

5 ways to believe in yourself

Acknowledge the good and bad things about yourself to improve. 

We are so quick to notice all of the traits that we don’t like about ourselves, but never the good. It’s important to give yourself a pat on the back from time to time. Mental strength comes from determination that you will fight off negative thoughts, no matter how hard it might seem to do. Don’t keep telling yourself that you’re shit!

Confidence & self growth and progression comes from believing that you can achieve things. So, start applauding yourself and complimenting yourself when you deserve it. Turn that voice down in your mind that tells you everything about you is rubbish. Start thinking: What makes you a good person? What do you like about yourself? What do other people compliment you on? What makes you feel confident? How can I improve by using my positives to help me with my weaknesses?

Use criticism/pain in your life to make you stronger, not weaker. 

Life can be unfair sometimes. Whether it’s people trying to bring you down, or unpredictable situations that cause pain that you just don’t know how to move forward from. Circumstances can affect our confidence when we feel vulnerable or hurt. Don’t take the memories that haunt you and let them consume you negatively. Use them to make you become stronger, and be confident in the idea of believing in yourself and capability. Use your pain in a focused way to drive you to success. Pain can either destroy you or help you grow. You get to make that choice. 

Surround yourself with motivational energy (music, videos, books, television, people).

Positive energy + positive thoughts = positive attraction. The more positivity you surround yourself with, the brighter you will feel in general. Watching motivational videos/films, listening to upbeat music, reading motivational books and so on, will give you boosts throughout the day to remain hopeful in life and therefore, slightly more hopeful with your own abilities. Also, If there are people around you that are supporting you and reminding you that you can do something, you will start to believe in it and yourself a little bit more. Place yourself in the middle of a supportive ‘I can do this’ circle. But remember that you don’t NEED other people. You can do it alone, with a good mindset and determination to feel confident. 

Create a routine that you stick to. 

To believe in yourself, prove to yourself that you can do something that you set your mind to. Create a structure that will help you with your confidence- and stick to it! For example, go to the gym on your set days. Do your studies or work when you are supposed to. Eat healthy foods that you have planned for the week. Create some goals and just do it! Show yourself that even if you have fallbacks, you can still get back up and make yourself proud. Routine is good for the mindset. The more you surprise yourself by delivering results, the more belief you will gain in yourself. 

Don’t crumble when times get tough. 

You might have some bad days that you feel you can’t get back from. Your thoughts might haunt you and whisper to you that you’re not good enough and you can’t do something. But the most important thing is to keep fighting every single day. Keep getting back up, brushing yourself down and trying again. Because as long as you are trying as hard as you possibly can, you should be proud of yourself. And the belief is always deep within you, remember that.


Getting through heartbreak- the worst part

The ending of a relationship is devastating. Whether you had to walk away from a toxic situation or somebody has walked away from you, it doesn’t mean that it hurts any less. As somebody who is currently experiencing these emotions, I want to let you know that you’re not going through this on your own.

I know it feels like your heart has been ripped out of your chest. I know the sick, anxious feeling that randomly comes into your body throughout the day and smacks you round the face so you can’t think of anything else but the way that you’re feeling. I know the pit of the stomach sobbing until you can’t breathe and the anger that takes over your body. I know the constant urge to want to communicate with the other person and the brave face that you have to put on when you’re fighting back the tears. I know it feels like somebody has literally died and that you’re scared of the future.

These feelings are all okay.

Please don’t feel as if you’re being dramatic or that everybody around you is perfectly happy because there are people out there who feel exactly the same as you, and they are getting through it too. Day by day.

There is going to be a way out of this and this isn’t going to last forever. You might not realise it, but just by getting up in the morning and facing the world, you are doing amazing. Know that you will cry. A lot. I literally keep bursting into tears (embarrassing i know), but of course it’s going to hurt- don’t try to fight it. Tears are good for you. They are a release. You will also get angry but don’t let it consume you. Feel the emotion, then let it pass. Don’t try to push it away because it’ll come back 10 times stronger.

Try to distract yourself and keep yourself busy with things that you like doing, but don’t be afraid of having them days or evenings alone. Try to learn to get comfortable with your own company and being by yourself, bit by bit. Have your tears, have your anger (but don’t message your ex because it never helps anything) and give yourself time to grieve the relationship. Make the effort to see your friends and go to events, but only when you’re ready to.

Try not to dwell on ‘what if’s?’ or ‘where did it all go wrong?’, because that doesn’t matter now. What matters now is your wellbeing and your future. YOU matter. You are good enough, you are beautiful and the breakdown of a relationship does not have a reflection on you alone, so don’t be harsh on yourself. Treat yourself with care and don’t try to rush into meeting anybody new. That’s not something you need to think about yet.

Remember not to be afraid to talk about how you’re feeling as well. I know that it can sometimes feel like you might be talking too much about it, or that you don’t even know how to speak about it, but the people who love you will listen to you and communicating will eventually help you feel better. You are not a burden.

The raw first part of a break up is one of the most painful things that you will have to go through, but I genuinely believe that everything happens for a reason. Hold your head high, be brave and trust in time healing your wounds.

I want to let you know that you’re doing so well and I’m sending you so much love. Things are going to get better. Hang in there.


2019 is going to be your year!

As another year draws to a close, it’s time to ensure you go into 2019 with a bright and positive mental attitude. I know that it can sometimes feel like you’re stuck in a massive rut that you can’t get out of, but whatever your circumstances were this year, you can make 2019 better.

So, how can you do this?

Reflection – To move forward, you must first reflect. Remember every moment of 2018 that you have laughed, cried, the places that you have been to, the times you have got angry and the times you have danced. Feel every single moment. I know that it can hurt to reflect on painful or negative moments, but it’s also essential to move forward. Pain and happiness are both as important to remember, because everything teaches you something. The key is to acknowledge the painful moments and memories, but not to stay in the feeling. You have to feel the hurt, and then store it away in a safe place to remind you of your strength and character.

Dreams & Goals- Dreams and aspirations are what keep the fire inside of you burning. Grab onto the dreams that you have and use it to keep you driven. You might not be where you thought you’d be right now, whether that be in your career or personal life, but that’s okay. Just remember that you’re not stuck where you are. You can move forward and live your dream if you stay dedicated and keep faith. It will take time though, so accept that it may take longer than what you would like. Start by setting small realistic goals for yourself each week, make a list and stick to them. Once you start to see your progress, it will keep you motivated to keep going. You might have fall backs (i’m sure you did in 2018 too), but don’t give up this time. If you make a mistake or don’t complete a goal, pick yourself back up, brush yourself down and start again the next day.

Making changes-If you don’t like something, then make that change. It can be scary making a change. Sometimes you feel like it can be easier to stay in the routine that you’re in, even if it isn’t making you happy because the unknown can be daunting. This year, be brave. Make decisions that challenge you and help you grow. The first step is the hardest, but once you’ve made that step, everything else becomes easier. If people are mistreating you, don’t allow them to control your life anymore. If there is a part of your life that is making you unhappy, start making plans to get out of that place. You might be scared, but know that you can do it. Believe in yourself and respect yourself enough to make changes that will put a smile on your face.

Love yourself more-No more beating yourself up. You are amazing and you need to start believing that. Once you begin to accept yourself for who you are, you can change the world. Be confident in your skin and treat yourself with the respect that you deserve. Be kinder to yourself and ensure you have some ‘you’ time. You can’t expect to be a good person to others, if you can’t even be good to yourself. 

Maintaining positivity-Optimism opens the key to good mental health. There might be things that happen in 2019 which you don’t expect. Life has a funny way of throwing things at us when we least expect it. Don’t fight it or let it make you live in fear. Just know that you can stay optimistic and be strong through anything that is presented to you. Don’t let anything destroy you this year, even if it feels like the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do. Keep your eye on the future and remember that there is so much happiness ahead of you when the world feels like it’s caving in. Everything happens for a reason, so keep your focus on the next good thing. 

No matter what happens this year, you have the power to decide how it affects you. You have the power to change your mental health just by working on the way you view things. It’s the little things that can make a big difference.

Be mindful, be kind, be happy and most importantly this year, be brave.

xxx 


You will get your dream & you will succeed

It’s okay to battle with your dreams and goals. There is nothing wrong with having an authentic, difficult and genuine relationship with what you’re passionate about.

I know that we are always fed the “rags to riches” story.  The “luck” story. The “I had a dream when I was younger and my determination has got me to where I am today” story. But don’t drown in the fairytale story of other peoples success. One of the biggest mistakes we can make is to compare our visions to others.

We believe that it should be easy. That we should be in love with our dreams and never give up. Yes, to succeed, we can’t give up, but who said that we can’t have fall backs? Who said that we can’t fall in and out of love with what we want to achieve? That we can’t lose faith in the end goal sometimes?

We would be naive to hear other peoples stories and believe that they have had a smooth and easy process. This is why we need to be more realistic with ourselves and others about what we are doing. We should talk about our struggles. The bad days matter too.

There are times when it feels like it’s easier to just give up on your dream. Trust me, I know. I’ve been there a thousand times before. I know that I have days where I give up on what I love. I feel angry that I haven’t got to where I want to be. I give up on the blog, my writing, my creativity. I give up on myself and everything. I don’t try for months. I feel worthless and not good enough to succeed. And that’s okay and not something i’m ashamed of. I don’t always work as hard as what I should do but that doesn’t mean that I have any less of a dream. It just means that life and darkness gets in the way. 

But then I have the good days. The days where I feel the tingle run through my body when I get an idea and I’m discussing it with somebody else. The rush that I get when I’m creating and doing something that I love, when time just passes by and I don’t even realise. The feeling of fulfilment when I’ve made somebody feel something through my writing or provoked a thought. The emotional expression and feeling of release after a project.

When I’m having a good day, the vision of where I can take my work is unstoppable. The light that beams inside of me is something that can’t be replaced. That’s the passion. The dream.

If you have that spark inside of you, you will make it. No matter how long it takes, you will get there. But know that it’s okay to struggle sometimes. Not everyday is going to feel like a dream. Some days, it might feel like a nightmare. But if you are born to do something, then you will make it. You will find your dream searching for you too, and all of them hard days will be worth it.

Advice us girls in our 20’s should take

1. Embrace the journey of self discovery.  

Discovering who we are as young women is exciting! It can sometimes feel like we have to rush the process of knowing exactly who we are and what we want out of life, but actually, the journey of finding ourselves should be celebrated and enjoyed.

2. Never be afraid of cutting toxic people out of your life. 

People change. Life changes, And sometimes, we realise that we deserve better than what the people around us are giving us. It can feel lonely when we decide to cut people off, but remember that doing this leaves room for the right people to come into our lives.

3. Eat that donut and don’t feel guilty for it. 

Let’s eat it with a smile on our face and enjoy every bite. There’s enough shit going on in the world, so let’s just do it. (But obviously not too many donuts so we have to roll through the door).

4. Laugh until you can’t breathe. 

5. Stop comparing yourself to other people.

Fuck what other people are doing. We are doing great and our life journey is completely unique and special. We need to try not to get caught up in putting too much pressure on ourselves by comparing other people’s lives to our own.

6. Sometimes take a break from social media and just ‘do you boo’.

We all need some ‘me time’ sometimes, and social media can be the devil when we aren’t feeling great. So remember that the internet isn’t always real and to spend time away too. 

7.  Don’t have regrets. Only look forward, 

Tomorrow is a new day and everything happens for a reason. So don’t look back. 

8. Never let anybody tell you that you can’t achieve your dreams.

One day all of the hard work will pay off. Prove the haters wrong.

9. Now and again, turn the TV off and read a good book. Let the story take you to another world.  

10. Be brave. Speak your truth and stand up for what you believe in. 

As young women, we should be proud of our beliefs and opinions. If there is something that we feel needs to be said, we should speak out. Even if our voice shakes.

11. Never stop trying to learn new things. 

12. Experiment! If you can’t do it in your 20’s then when can you do it?!

13. Don’t let others intimidate you because you’re younger/older than them. 

We are boss ass bitches who can hold ourselves in a respectful ,confident and graceful manner in any situation. 

14. Focus on having a good time rather than how you look doing it. 

Because when we’re older, we aren’t going to be thinking of what clothes we were wearing, or what make up we had on when we look back at a memory. We are going to be thinking of the feeling that it gave us. In the end, that’s all that really matters. 

15. Don’t let men take advantage of you. Be with a man who treats you like a Queen. 

We deserve to be treated how we treat others. We deserve the world. 

16. Learn to fall in love with yourself.

We are the only ones who can give ourselves true unconditional happiness by loving ourselves. 

17. Don’t take people for granted. 

18. Never apologise for how you feel. 

19. It’s never too late.

20. Don’t rush. Take the pressure off yourself and just enjoy right now. 

Whatever stage you’re at in your life is absolutely fine. Don’t rush ahead. Know that everything is okay just the way that it is.

There is so much time. Don’t waste it worrying.